I’ve been thinking since I got engaged that I typically have done a lot of things that wouldn’t be considered “normal” things so I figured why not write a post and confess them all? Sounds like fun to me haha so here it goes:

  1. I was more nervous than excited to tell everyone. Tommy and I are relatively young. (I’m about to be 24 and he’s about to be 22.) I was nervous that some people might think we were too young and wouldn’t hold back expressing that. I also recognize that when you aren’t a Christian, the rest of the world seems to be putting off marriage until they are completely sure that their boyfriend or girlfriend is “the one”. I don’t necessarily believe in this concept but that’s a post for another day.  I was insanely overwhelmed with how much support we received though and we actually didn’t get anyone expressing their disapproval and I enjoyed telling everyone way more than I thought I would have. It was actually the best weekend of my life.
  2. I got my nails done for months before Tommy actually proposed. I started getting them done right when we first started talking about it and thought it could actually happen haha.
  3. I wasn’t excited about having a wedding. I’m more excited now but I was a little overwhelmed with being the one responsibly for planning a wedding especially considering I haven’t been to once since I was 7 so I wasn’t even sure HOW to plan one lol but now that I’ve researched like crazy I think I know what to expect and plan for. Tommy’s also been so great with it because he is super involved and has done everything with me rather than just leaving it to me. I’m also nervous about a wedding because I hate being the center of attention but I don’t think I’ll mind so much for this occasion. 😉
  4. I had times of being really impatient. There came a time where Tommy and I had the conversation where we knew that we both wanted to marry each other and felt that was where God was leading us and in my head that meant we were ready to get married like then. I expected things to move faster and admittedly on my own terms, which led to me being discontent with where God had me and Tommy and I fought a lot because of it. In the end though everything worked out well and I know that God’s timing is perfect. I can see that more than ever now.

I hope you enjoyed reading these. They were fun to write. I also wanted to start a little mini series about how my life has changed when our relationship started getting serious. Things changed that I had no idea would and that brought so confusion so I thought it might be helpful to share these things/ know I’m not alone in them.

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  1. anonymousannaxo

    January 15, 2016 at 10:14 am

    I enjoyed this post a lot! I can agree with you on being nervous about being young. I have a serious boyfriend and we’ve talked about marriage and engagement and I told him that if we did get engaged within the next year I was nervous about what people would say because of our age. I’m glad everyone was supportive of you two! Congrats on the engagement by the way 🙂

    1. Ashley

      January 15, 2016 at 10:40 am

      Thanks so much for stopping by and commenting! Honestly isn’t it so scary sometimes worrying about what other people will think? I was terrified but what I learned through the process was that people tend to realize that marriage is such a personal thing and it only really has to be right for the two of you. Obviously those closest to us we need to consider their opinions just to make sure we are making the best choice but when it comes down to it, we have to do what is right for us individually. I wish you the best with your boyfriend though! When/if you guys get engaged you’ll see how much people really support and love you and it’s such a fun time. But just a helpful tip at the same time – try to enjoy where you’re at too! I had a hard time doing it but things are going to change so much once you’re engaged so just savor all the time you have now.

      1. anonymousannaxo

        January 15, 2016 at 10:52 am

        Thanks! I will. We really are enjoying where we are now though. We know things will start to change at the end of this summer so I know that I’m enjoying this while I can haha

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