Do you guys ever feel like you have one of those days where literally everything is wrong? Either there is something causing major stress in your life or a combination of bunch of small things that all feel so overwhelming? Well yesterday I had a combination of both of those things and to say I had a bit of a meltdown would be of an understatement.
I am currently going through some family issues regarding my brother that is a major source of stress, along with the stress of planning a wedding, and having to find a new job come March of next year. All of these things got to me at the same time and I was feeling a bit overwhelmed to say the least. I admittedly took some of that stress out on my poor fiance – although he’s a saint and handled the situation amazingly, showing me how much he does love and care about me in the midst of my weaknesses. He’s honestly such a blessing to me, I can’t get over it.
Honestly, even though I couldn’t help my feelings – I felt guilty for feeling all of the stress too. I felt that since God has blessed me so abundantly by allowing one of my biggest dreams of starting my own family to come true that I shouldn’t be feeling stressed about anything and just should feel thankful. I feel like this is a common thing, I’ve heard other bloggers admit the same thing and I want to reassure anyone who may have felt the same way too that God is not mad at us when we feel that way.
I’ve come up with a few things that I want to do to accept these feelings and also reduce them.
- Accept the Feelings: I really believe that God does not desire for us to beat ourselves up when we do the wrong thing or choose the wrong attitude. Sometimes we are going to feel things that are messy and that we don’t think we should be feeling but God already knows who we are and He just desires us to go to Him with these feelings rather than keep them from Him and beat ourselves up over them.
- Cast Your Cares: Which brings me to casting our cares on God. He sees us and cares about us more than we realize. He is near to the brokenhearted and desires to take those pains away from us – but He can’t unless we allow Him too. What I realized today was that I was going to God with my feelings but I wasn’t trusting Him with them. I have no problem turning to God in my mess, it often is my first response but what I forget in that moment is that He cares. When I go to God and lay my worries at His feet, I need to leave them there. Not just turn right back around to pick them up and continue worrying about them. We can trust Him with our worries guys – He is good.
- Live in the Now: I realize this is much much easier said than done but I want to be more diligent about living in the now. Not worrying about tomorrow or next week or next month. I think it’s helpful to plan for those things but when they become sources of stress for us this was never what God wanted. One way I want to reduce the stress of this is by recognizing the blessings in my life – to realize that God has given me things to be enjoyed now and realize I don’t need whatever it is I’m stressing about to be happy. I also want to get better at planning so that there isn’t much to stress about in the future.
I know a lot of these are way easier said than done but I want to be more diligent about them to try to reduce the amount of breakdowns I have haha who’s with me? Does anyone else have a solution to those moments when everything just seems so overwhelming? I’d love to hear from you.