I wanted to write a post about how to pray for your marriage because even though I wrote about how to pray for your husband, I think praying specifically for our marriages is actually different. I know that this will make it a lot easier for myself to pray for my marriage, so I figured it would help others as well.

Just like in my praying for your husband post, this post will also be outlined based off of a chapter in the book Wife After God: Drawing Closer to God & Your Husband. If you are interested doing this study alongside your husband, there is also a book Husband After God: Drawing Closer To God And Your Wife. (Please note these are both affiliate links, meaning if you make a purchase I may receive a small commission for the sale, but the price does not change for you. Thanks for your support!) It may also be a really special time to ask your husband to pray for your marriage with you.

1 | Thank God for the gift of marriage

No matter if your marriage is easy or hard, God still has given you marriage as a gift and I think it’s important that we try to see it as such. (This obviously is easier in some seasons than it is in others.) Thank God for the gift that is marriage and having a partner to do life with. If you are going through a hard time in your marriage and are having a hard time seeing your marriage as a gift, ask God to change your heart to be able to see your marriage as a gift.

2 | Ask God to protect your marriage

As it says in the Wife After God book, marriage will always be a very fragile thing. Since we are two sinners living together, there will always be arguments and hard things, so I think it is so important to ask God to protect our marriages. Ask that God will protect your marriage from the schemes of the devil and from your own sinful desires.

3 | Ask that God will increase the intimacy between you and your husband

Increasing intimacy will obviously make our marriages stronger. If we ask God to increase the intimacy between us and our husbands, he will be able to help with this. Sometimes this might not be so easy apart from God, but with his help, he can open our eyes to ways that we can bless our marriage. He may also show our husbands how they can also pursue us better as well.

4 | Ask God to help you center your marriage on him

This is important because without a firm foundation, marriage can very easily crumble. We know that if we build our relationships on God, our foundation will always be secure. Ask God to show you how to center your marriage more on him.

5 | Ask God to show you what you need to pray for

This one is great. Sometimes we honestly don’t know what may be lacking in our marriage or where we can improve so all we need to do is ask God to show us what does need prayer. It may not be automatic, but this is a prayer God will definitely answer.

6 | Ask God to help you with your finances

I think this is a great thing to ask God as well. No matter how well we think we are managing our finances, God knows what is down the road and the best way we can handle them so it is so important to ask for his help. Finances can also be a huge stressor on marriages, so asking for his help with this can ultimately eliminate an issue within your marriage.

7 | Ask God to strengthen your marriage

All of these things will obviously strengthen your marriage but if we specifically ask God to strengthen our marriages, he will. Ask God to give you an increased desire to spend time doing the things that your husband enjoys, and vise versa. I don’t know anything quite as helpful to a marriage than spending a lot of time together, doing things that you both love. Ask God for help with this.

These are just some ideas that might be helpful to pray over either by yourself or with your husband. Inviting God in always improves our situations, including our marriages, since marriage was always about God anyway.

What other things do you pray for your marriage for? I’d love to add it to my list as well!


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  • I’ve been praying recently that my husband and I would be able to worship God together more openly. Even after being together (dating and married) for nearly three years, we’re still a little shy about praying or worshipping God in front of eachother! And we read the Bible together yesterday and both prayed afterward – so I can see God really does answer these prayers.

    • That’s such an awesome prayer!! My husband and I are also both a little bit shy about worshipping God together. I still have not prayed out loud in front of him and he only just started praying out loud once we got married this past May. We both don’t come from Christian families so I think it’s just going to take time getting used to “doing Christian things” together because it’s so new. Maybe it’s the same for you guys? It’s so cool how God answers prayers like that though! It’s awesome that you’re striving to worship together, no matter how slow it goes!

      • Both of us have been brought up in Christian families and have been genuine believers since we were teenagers, but I’ve always been pretty shy about praying in front of others. We’re a lot better than we were when we first started dating, but to feel free to really passionately worship God with my husband would be wonderful.

        • It’s actually really helpful to know that people who grew up in a Christian home also struggle with these things too. Thank you for sharing with me. 🙂

  • Lindsay

    I absolutely love this list!!!

  • Marsha

    This is a great list. I don’t know how people do marriage without prayer. I pray for our connection and for God to keep me tender towards my husband.

    • I cannot agree more. I just don’t know how people do life without prayer, haha! Those are really great reminders to pray for too, thank you.

  • Anne Markey

    What a great list! I love to pray for my marriage!

  • Jessica Fox

    Love your list! This is good to know for when I get married in the future. 🙂

  • This is such a great post! Lots of practical application right here. We’ve been married for almost 29 years and I still don’t ever take it for granted. I thank God for my marriage regularly and ask for much GRACE, for me, and for my hubby. Remembering neither of us is perfect is important, and looking to the One who actually IS perfect is essential, whether you’ve been married 30 days or 30 years… Stopping by from #ByHisGraceBloggers 🙂

    • Thank you so much for the encouragement! It’s so helpful to hear from someone who is farther along in the marriage journey than I am! I really appreciate you stopping by 🙂

  • Bethany Shields

    Thanks for taking the time to put this together!

  • All wonderful things to pray for! I also pray that our marriage would be a witness – that it would glorify Him. <3

    • That’s another great thing to pray for. Thank you for the reminder 🙂